Children’s mental health is a hot topic in the post-pandemic world. As a society, we are more open to discussing mental health and seeking support, which is a good thing, but it can also be very confusing for parents to know the difference between a mental
health issue and a normal stage of child development.
While it’s common for children to go through various stages of growth and development, sometimes these stages can be mistaken for mental health problems. If you are worried about your child’s behaviours, it’s a good idea to observe them over time, using a diary to keep track of behaviours and issues to see if you can spot a pattern or trigger. Noting things down also helps you put things in perspective, things might not be as bad as you think.
It’s important to understand that mental health issues can occur in children of all ages, from infancy to adolescence. These issues can range from anxiety and depression to more severe conditions such as bipolar disorder. However, it’s also essential to recognize that some behaviours and emotions are normal and healthy for children to experience.
One example of a normal stage of child development is separation anxiety. Many children between the ages of six months and three years old experience separation anxiety when their primary caregiver leaves. This behaviour is entirely normal and is a sign that the child has formed a strong attachment to their caregiver. When children start school, it is normal for children to re-experience separation anxiety for a short while. Even as they get older, children can have the odd day when they don’t want to come to school. However, if a child continues to experience significant separation anxiety beyond the age of three or if the anxiety is severe and interferes with the child’s daily life over a prolonged time, it may be a sign of a mental health issue.
Another example of a normal stage of child development is tantrums. Many young children throw tantrums when they’re frustrated or upset, and this behaviour is a normal part of learning emotional regulation. However, if a child continues to have frequent and severe tantrums beyond the age of four or if the tantrums are significantly violent towards others, it may be a sign of a mental health issue.
There are lots of great websites on parenting and child development that can support parents to understand if their child’s behaviours fall within the normal range for their age and stage. The VeryWellFamily website is a good start.
As a parent, it’s important to know when to seek help for your child’s mental health. If you notice persistent and severe behaviour changes in your child, such as mood swings, excessive worry, difficulty sleeping, or a decline in academic performance, it’s important to seek the advice of a professional such as your GP or school.
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